Your 20’s is a time of learning, so you’ll make a mistake here and there. It’s a pivotal decade for discovering who you are and what you want out of life.
If you decide to just party the whole time, your life could spiral out of control. But, we learn life’s lessons the hard way sometimes.
We all screw up from time to time. But, some bad choices can have a long-term, negative impact on your life and your mind.
Learn from other’s mistakes before you have to learn them for yourself.
Luckily, you can avoid the following detrimental mistakes!
Mistake #1. Rushing into marriage.
Realize that your taste in partners will change as you mature.
When you’re in your early 20s you’ll fall in love and it will seem like a dream. You think it’ll always be that way… so you get married.
Years go by (if it last that long), then you’ll realize you don’t have anything in common with your partner.
Then, you get divorced and you won’t want to go through that again. But, in time, you’ll find someone who has their shit together and is ready to settle down.
Marriage will never “complete you” – you complete you.
Sounds corny, but it’s true. Your marriage can’t be your sole purpose in life. Listen to that little voice (your subconscious) and it’ll tell you what you need to do.
Then, go for it (unless your subconscious tells you to hurt anyone)!
Relationships take work!
That giddy, love feeling will fade no matter who you marry. That doesn’t mean the relationship should be ended. It means you both need to work on it every day.
Realize that everything won’t fall into place and stay that way forever. You’ll need to maintain and work on issues in the marriage continuously.
It will take continuous work to make a marriage last.
You’ll need to apologize, compromise and talk about your feelings. If you’re too stubborn to do that then it is going to be a long, lonely, journey for you.
Mistake #2. Getting pregnant immediately after marriage.
Know the responsibility and costs that come with having kids.
Even if you’ve saved up $10,000 to have a baby, that won’t even get you through half the first year of your child’s life.
It can cost $21,000 for the first year and a whopping $260,000 to raise a child to 18 years of age.
This is only for the bare essentials – no fancy clothes or toys included.
Try an IUD for birth control till you’re ready to have kids.
An IUD (Intrauterine Device) is a small, copper “T” that your doctor will place inside your uterus. Humans contain copper already so it’s harmless. Sperm hates copper. I have a Paragard IUD and I’d recommend it to anyone.
IUDs prevent pregnancy for 12 years. It has 0 hormones and no side-effects. IUDs are one of the most effective forms of birth control out there! It will save you a ton of money because you pay for it once and then get it taken out 12 years later.
When you’re ready to get pregnant, your gynecologist can remove the IUD and you will be fertile again immediately. Voilà!
We are not living in biblical times.
Many people are still worshiping ancient books that tell them to multiply like rabbits. Having tons of babies doesn’t make you a better, or more “Godly person”.
It’s irresponsible to have a bunch of babies, regardless of whether you can afford them or not. Earth can’t afford them.
Humans have taken over the planet, but if we continue reproducing, we could mess it all up. Earth only has a finite amount of resources.
Currently, it isn’t able to sustain everyone. Hundreds of Thousands of people die yearly from lack of clean water and food.
If you’re exploding with love to give, adopt a child instead of getting pregnant. Adopting won’t ruin your body, no stretch marks or weight gain!
You’d feel great about yourself for saving a child from a horrific life of repeated traumas.
You’ll get major karma points for that, I assure you! If you adopt, you’d be fixing the issue rather than making it worse.
Mistake #3. Going to college right after high school.
After high school, you probably don’t have a clue what your ideal job looks like. Chances are, you haven’t had enough job experience to know what you’d enjoy doing.
Why lock yourself down to a “lifetime career” right after high school? Only 27% of college grads actually get a job related to their major anyways.
People change careers many times throughout their lifetimes. They slave away at a job they hate because they chose their major many years ago as an immature teenager.
After college comes the debt.
A college degree can enslave you into debt for years, possibly decades. It will hold you back from using that money for something profitable, like investing. 70% of students leave college with $38,000 worth of debt. Don’t start out your life in the negative!
Check out this BBC documentary about our future in the year 2050.
Everyone is different. We will all make mistakes in life, but that’s how we grow. We would have never learned to walk if we didn’t keep getting back up. Remember, all you have to do to be a good person is not hurt (or be harmful) to other people.
Think about how you want your life to turn out. Make your decisions in accordance with that plan.
Disregard what your parents want you to do. It’s your life and you’re the one who has to live it.
What mistakes growing up did you make?
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