Today over 80% of Americans suffer from low self-esteem. It’s a vital component to your well-being, happiness, and your ultimate level of success. Luckily, self-esteem is also free to build and accessible to everyone!
Self-esteem is how you value yourself in the world. Do you believe that you’re worthy of love, respect, happiness, and success as much as anyone else? Are you proud of yourself? Do you like who you’ve become?
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
― Sharon Salzberg
What does low self-esteem look like?
People with low self-esteem are critical and defensive. They don’t approve of themselves and are afraid to make mistakes. This mindset will ensure they don’t try to reach their goals because of the potential for failure. Chances are they’ll never achieve anything and become depressed, possibly suicidal.
Suicide is a massive issue today. Suicide rates have increased by about 30% in every US state for the past 2 decades. People are giving up on themselves and on life. But, they have the power to fix their mindset and don’t have to be stuck in a lifetime of misery.
People with high self-esteem are optimistic and they believe that they’re a good person worthy of love, respect, and happiness.
If you aren’t happy with yourself chances are it’s because you’ve been neglecting yourself. Practice the following methods often in order to rebuild your self-esteem.
1. Create an accurate self-image
“When you start loving yourself and respecting your time and energy, things will change. Get to know your worth, and your value will go up.”
― Germany Kent
You may need to re-build your self-concept (or self-image). This is the person you see when you visualize yourself. Some people have a distorted self-image due to negative memories or past traumas.
Write out some positive things you know about yourself.
- What hobbies do you have?
- Name some things you like about yourself?
- What are you good at?
When you have a clear image of who you are then you can build a stronger self-concept.
2. Stop being critical
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy
In order for you to gain self-esteem, you will need to accept yourself as as you are now. You can’t be criticizing yourself after every mistake. Accept it or you’ll never be brave enough to put yourself “out there” to achieve success. Repeatedly fail till it doesn’t affect you anymore. That’s how the masters do it.
All humans are flawed creatures. Even geniuses make mistakes but they keep striving and fine-tuning their skills.
3. Improve the things you can change
Situations and certain people can damage your self-esteem but you have the ability to control where you go and what you do.
Stop embracing things that are destroying how you feel about yourself. After you get rid of the issue you’ll gain more confidence and self-respect. This will give you momentum and energy to start working on the next problem.
4. Build your self-discipline
“No person is free who is not master of himself.”
Self-discipline is your ability to control your emotions and to overcome your weaknesses. Force yourself do the things you need to do to better your life. When you finish them you’ll give your confidence a boost. You’ll feel energized and want to complete something else!
5. Release your need for acceptance
There has yet to have been a soul that everyone liked. No matter how amazing you are there will be some that don’t like you. That’s okay! The best thing to do is accept it and accept yourself. If you do then you won’t feel the need for their acceptance.
Needing people to like you and be around you devalues your self-esteem. You’re teaching yourself that you aren’t good enough on your own. Spend some time alone and learn to enjoy it.
6. Don’t compare yourself to others.
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
― Marilyn Monroe
You know yourself better than anyone in the world. So, you are the only expert on being you. Therefore, don’t compare yourself to others because you aren’t an expert on being them.
You don’t know that person’s thoughts and fears. Nor do you know of any traumas they’ve been through. Compare your present self to your past or future self and see how far you’ve come and how much further you need to go.
7. Be aware of your inner voice
“Every person is the creation of himself, the image of his own thinking and believing. As individuals think and believe, so they are.” – Claude M. Bristol
You are constantly shaping your life, relationships, and environment with your thoughts. Look around you. Your reality reflects your inner-world. So, make sure your thoughts are optimistic and encouraging. Be aware when you start thinking negative and pull those thoughts back to positivity.
8. Learn something new
Learning something new can be a great self-esteem booster. There are tons of YouTubes and apps to teach you whatever you want to know. Studies show learning a new language helps build confidence. You can do this for free with the Duolingo app.
9. Challenge yourself and win
Give yourself a simple goal that you can achieve. If you only give yourself lofty goals and don’t achieve them you’ll lose respect for yourself. Whereas if you finished the task you’d get a boost of confidence that will lead to more achievements.
10. Clean your space
Cleaning has a calming, therapeutic effect on the mind. Make yourself do/clean/organize what you’ve been avoiding. It’s not going to disappear or improve on its own. A clean environment will ease your depression and your stress levels.
In essence, your self-esteem determines how happy and successful you are in life. If you do these tips you’ll have a powerful self-esteem and change your life for the better.
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